tw: discussion of rape and sexual assault
The conversation above took place on the wall of the facebook group, Questioning Slutwalk, which describes itself as a page focussed on analysing the motives and impacts of the Slutwalk Campaign. Slutwalk, which originated in Toronto, Canada, is a worldwide civilian-run campaign that targets rape culture and asserts that a person’s dress, occupation, state of intoxication, etc. never makes sex without consent permissible. Please note that this statement is not exclusive to the sexual assault of women by men — it covers the whole spectrum of genders because the issue here is not the gender of the victim: the bottom line is simply that rape is wrong and that we live in a rape culture that affects everyone regardless of gender.
However, instead of creating an open dialogue on the topic it claims to be centred on, the administrator and the group members of Questioning Slutwalk only post articles and commentary of an unforgivable misogynist, rape-apologist, and slut shaming ideology. Questioning Slutwalk has created a rhetoric that (inaccurately) paints the Slutwalk Campaign as a movement that encourages and perpetuates the sexual abuse of men.
Group members outright reject the reasoned opinions of others who try to explain the purpose of Slutwalk, proclaiming them to be female supremacists, misandrists, rape apologists, and deniers of male rape by women. The group members despise women and think little of the notion of female consent, while simultaneously complaining about the oppression of men by women, rape culture as a creation of female supremacists, and the sexual objectification and abuse of men by women.
Now, I will never deny that men get sexually assaulted and raped by women. It is a true piece of information and it is horrific. It is also just as true and horrific a fact as the reality of the sexual assaults and rapes of women by men, or of men by men, or of any other imaginable gender combination. I will never say that the sexual assault of men is not a huge problem; it is extremely underreported and it is traumatising to the victims. That said, I have a serious issue with the way this group conducts itself. The administrator states that the page is supposed to be a safe place for male survivors, but the administrator completely disregards the hostility directed at both women and female survivors (genders that are outside of the binary are completely unaddressed). Male survivors should and need to have a support group, but this is not the group they need. This group simultaneously accuses the entire female population of being predators and attacks female survivors, viciously stating that they deserve sexual assault because of their actions, dress, etc.
This is completely unacceptable.
One cannot claim that the sexual assaults suffered by one specific group is any more traumatic or serious than another’s. While the scale may vary, rape is still rape, and it is a horrible crime that should never be treated with such disrespect.
EDIT: As of this morning, the conversation above has been deleted from Questioning Slutwalk’s page, which, according to Questioning Questioning Slutwalk, is a common occurrence. Additionally, Chandrapal S Bhasker has blocked Sara and left another charming post.
This woman's blogpost is cissexist, accepts racism as the price you pay for good pizza, and slutshaming - all in the name of "18 rules for raising a boy"
TRIGGER WARNING for slut-shaming, racism, and all-around assholishness.
1. Teach him what a skank is so he’ll never bring one home.
Why don’t you treat him that everyone deserves respect - regardless of your opinions on their dress or sexual exploit. Guess what: not everyone cares what you think, and they’re certainly not on this Earth to please your outdated and misogynistic expectations.
6. Teach him that relationships are important and he needs to be faithful and monogamous. Teach him that sometimes relationships suck and require work. They’re not always “fun” and there are times it will seem easier to cut and run than stay and do some hard work. Teach him that he signed up for this and unless his partner is beating the shit out of him (physically and/or emotionally) he needs to stay and figure it out. Remind him too that when he was in high school you taught him what a skank was so that when he’s pushing 50, fat and bald, he’ll know the 20 something skank making eyes at him is only hoping he has a wallet as fat as his belly and he should go home now to his loving wife.
Because every relationship you will ever have will end in marriage, so you have to stay to make it work. Also, the only possible reason to not want to be with someone is abuse. /sarcasm. Annnd slut-shaming, again!
9. Give him a baby name book and help him make a list starting now. Little girls everywhere are doing it and maybe it if we start our sons now we can avoid disaster names like Pilot Inspektor and Blue.
Yay! Shaming PoC because the names they give their children don’t live up to YOUR expectations. Who died and made this lady queen of the universe, anyway. All of the people she’s making fun of are not only vastly more financially successful than she is, their art is contributing wayyy more to our culture than her asshole blog posts.
13. Teach your son to never snap a girl’s bra strap. For one, it’s rude and disrespectful to the girls and for another, in this day and age it can be called sexual harassment and your son could be expelled or worse.
“In this day and age”? Really? You’re going to imply that people who term that harassment are too sensitive? And the fact that it could hurt him is on the level with the fact that it means he’s a shitty person who thinks women are his own personal plaything?
14. Teach your son it’s OK to cry, but only if he’s really hurt. Right now my 7 year old is so “in touch” with his sensitive side it’s all I can do not to call him “cry baby.” The boy cried today because he lost a Beyblades match! I really need to see blood if I’m going to see tears or I fear for his future.
So your son only gets to conform to stereotypical gender roles, got it. Teaching him it’s only okay to cry when there’s blood or physical pain is essentially telling him his emotions aren’t important. Don’t cry if you’re sad, only if the blood is gushing.
17. Teach him about good pizza. When he’s in New York City and wants a slice of pizza, Papa John’s is not the place to go. NYC is the capital of delicious pizza! Yes, most of the pizzerias are racist too, but at least their pizza tastes better if it has to be served up with a side of bigotry. (I’m actually more offended that this woman ate Papa John’s pizza in NYC than I am by the fact that she was called “Lady Chinky Eyes” that tells you a little something about me and my love for NYC pizza.)
And now we see why this lady is such a raging asswipe: she’s a wild racist who puts her culinary enjoyment over the right of PoC to be treated like human beings. Mother of the year, I’m telling you.
(Source: seriouslyamerica)
(Source: burnme-moriarty)
I wasn’t “asking for it.” I was five.
Short Shorts. A Hello Kitty T-Shirt. Cork Wedges. Pigtails.
Stop holding victims accountable for their wardrobes.
Start holding rapists accountable for raping.
A response to the wave of victim blaming on Tumblr today. Feel free to share.
You’re so brave.
