I’d like you to remember the last time you found it difficult to give an explicit “no” to somebody in a non-sexual context. Maybe they asked you to do them a favour, or to join them for a drink. Did you speak up and say, outright, “No?” Did you apologise for your “no?” Did you qualify it and say, “Oh, I’m sorry, I can’t make it today?” If you gave an outright “no,” what privileged positions do you occupy in society, and how does your answer differ from the answers of people occupying more marginalised positions?
This form of refusal was analysed in 1999 by Kitzinger and Frith (K&F) in Just Say No? The Use of Conversation Analysis in Developing a Feminist Perspective on Sexual Refusal. Despite the seeming ambiguity in question/refusal acts like, “We were wondering if you wanted to come over Saturday for dinner,” “Well, uhh, it’d be great but we promised Carol already,” they are widely understood by the participants as straightforward refusals.
K&F conclude by saying that, “For men to claim [in a sexual context] that they do not ‘understand’ such refusals to be refusals (because, for example, they do not include the word ‘no’) is to lay claim to an astounding and implausible ignorance of normative conversational patterns.”
”Under Duress: Agency, Power, and Consent
Like I’ve said before. There’s no excuse.
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#fdr
Gloria Steinem, responding to the term “feminazi”, coined by conservative radio host Rush Limbaugh in the early 90’s. (via malefeminist)
Also, can we all mention this every time some dope starts talking about how Hitler took away all the guns.
(via goodreasonnews)
In this society we have completely demonized fat. How many times have you had to tell a friend of yours that she isn’t fat? How many times has she had to tell you the same thing? Obviously, when people have unrealistic perceptions of themselves it should not go unnoticed, but in this act, while we are reassuring our friends, we put down every woman who is overweight. The demonization of fat and the ease of associating black women with fat exposes yet another opportunity for racism. If we really want to start talking more honestly about all women’s relationships with our bodies, we need to start asking the right questions.”
Sirena J. Riley, “The Black Beauty Myth” (via wretchedoftheearth)
Fat Black women are HATED.
HATED.
All those mammy movies are not made to do anything other than HATE US.
We don’t get to be anything other than somebody’s servant/butt of the joke.
(via sourcedumal)
It’s going to be a good episode tonight by the look of it.
Even with fluffly slippers, Neil kicks arse.
(Source: bryko)
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*insert fictional character here* has coloured/pale eyes!!! there’s no way they can PoC!!! it’s not accurate!! stop sacrificing integrity for your political correctness whaaa whaaa
PLEASE SHUT UP FOREVER
