When I used to be on ESPN, very often. That I looked tired was a common refrain, or that I have a fat face, what I was wearing, etc. … Sometimes it was about how hot I am and will I accept their marriage proposal? And then, of course, the more vile comments, which are always plus-plus. I’ve been called a c—- more times than I can count, had myriad death threats, and been told that the only reason I have my job is because I’m either a.) sleeping with all the athletes, or b.) sleeping with my (presumed) male bosses. I once had someone threaten to mace me outside my apartment building in New York City. ESPN security (which is rarely heralded but so invaluable to its employees and especially its talent) worked with me at the time, and hearing some of the stuff they had to protect against was awful. I’m just a white woman who hears it, but that’s nothing compared to the black women in our business. From what I’ve been told and have seen anecdotally, the misogyny plus the racism they endure is awful. Easy from my privileged perch to say this, but I’ve got it easy. Amy K. Nelson, How often do you get tweets related to your appearance, gender or race (or all of the above) and what impact do they have?
One time this dude I know said he loved “sexy chocolate women.”
I told him that was fucked up and racist and he goes, “Don’t worry, I enjoy vanilla too.” And then he fucking winked.
Shrill: Misogynist for ‘a woman just said something.’ Anna Holmes
She had stayed a virgin so she wouldn’t be called a tramp or a slut; had married so she wouldn’t be called an old maid; faked orgasms so she wouldn’t be called frigid; had children so she wouldn’t be called barren; had not been a feminist because she didn’t want to be called queer and a man-hater; never nagged or raised her voice so she wouldn’t be called a bitch… She had done all that and yet, still, this stranger had dragged her into the gutter with the names that men call women when they are angry. Fried Green Tomatoes at the Whistle Stop Cafe (via anuraglahiri)
Objectification is the opposite of empathy. While we talk about its effects on girls, the way it erodes their confidence, their self-awareness, their sense of security, we rarely actually discuss what the effects of sexually objectifying women are on boys and their psychological or sexual development. It’s not minor. It encourages them to think of girls and women as body parts for pleasure and use — literally, as “things” that don’t have autonomy or self-determination and whose permission is irrelevant. Things that are fungible and are violable. Things that should be silent. Soraya Chemaly, Why naked pictures aren’t harmless
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