The kick of girl-girl porno lies partly in its catering to the fantasy of violating the privacy of lesbians, of making even sex between women - something quite threatening to male sexual prerogative-serve a male agenda; the other, tacit element is the kick of seeing “normal”girls made to emulate homosexual activity. The assumption is that homosexual activity is repulsive, and that therefore the models are disgusted by it and endure it under some compulsion - whether the compulsion of money, force of personality, or physical threat.
Pictures of real lesbians - at Gay Pride rallies, for example - kissing, necking and flirting are often considered disgusting and ugly by the same men who enjoy girl-girl fantasy porn.
Lesbians in the public world who kiss, hold hands, or otherwise behave like a sexually intimate couple (in a restaurant, in a park, at a movie) have often been subjected to abuse, threats and violence from hetero men - the same men who constitute the market for ever-popular girl-girl porno. Catharine A. Mackinnon, “Not For Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution & Pornography.” 2004. (via sanityscraps)
Craigslist user lambasts fat-shaming asshole:
You got up right before the Stony Brook stop and said something in a low voice to the woman next to you. You exited the train and she burst into tears. I asked her what you said—-and in between sobs she goes, “he said ‘Have some respect for yourself and lose some weight’”.
Oh shit, you said that to a complete fucking stranger, an innocent person trying to read a book on her ride home!!! Yeah dog, you sure did, and then you turned heel and walked off like the miserable coward you are.
You publicly humiliated another human and made her cry. How truly fucking horrifying of you. She was totally stunned, and devastated…is that what you wanted to see happen? Are you that much of a nightmare that you are PLEASED by making people cry? Total strangers even? I don’t think I can fully express to you what an absolute skidmark you are, but here goes:
You: blond, slicked hair, hipsterish. You manage to be both tasteless and sanctimonious, and something tells me you brag about loving Bukowski even though you only made it 80 pages deep into Women. You definitely think you’re smarter than everyone, and you love reflective surfaces. You work in design/tech/oh wait, who cares, you don’t fucking matter. You treat women like garbage, but don’t worry—-we hate you. You have a stank on you, and a lot of us can smell it…truly a dookiestain made flesh. You don’t have an original thought under that stupid haircut. You are a straight up fucking bully, and you should be ashamed of yourself. Bullies are the absolute worst.
The thing is, part of you knows this, and you’re upset that no one treats you like the special snowflake you believe yourself to be. So you say horrible things to strangers in public to make yourself feel better. Stop being such a fucking bully and shitting on other humans just because your wounded-ego feels like taking a dump. No really, just fucking stop.
Any of my fellow feminist vigilantes who might be reading this: keep an eye out for a white dude, around age 30, who looks like a wacker version of Macklemore, if that’s possible. Make sure you remind him of his insignificance.
And to the woman to whom this human diarrhea pile directed his steaming ego turd: keep your head up girl, it’s not even about you. I hope it didn’t ruin your day.
[This is a reaction to the last thing I reblogged, but as it was talking about cishet male treatment of LGBTQIA+ people specifically, I didn’t want to derail.]
When cishet dudes don’t think women and/or LBGTQIA+ people are around, the rape jokes start to fly, along with other casual dehumanizing quips about those groups.
I’ve been in so many situations where I was the only woman (and there were no LGBTQIA+ people they knew about), and if the cishet dudes think I’m out of earshot or not listening, their conversation gets terrifying REALLY quickly.
Even cishet dudes you think don’t do this, there is a 99.99% chance they do this. And you’ll probably never know about it. If you are a cishet dude and you don’t do this, start calling out your bros when they do - because THEY DO, and if you stay silent, they will take your silence (or worse, laughter), as approval.
I also don’t want to let gay, bi, and pan cis dudes out of this - it’s been my experience that most of them will join in to this kind of misogynistic male “bonding” without blinking an eye.
Cishet women flip the switch to homophobia, transphobia, and transmisogyny when they think no LGBTQI+ people are around. White people get more overtly racist when they think there are no PoC listening. Neurotypical people express their ableism when they think they’re unobserved. And if we don’t make it a habit to call out this behavior when we hear it, WE ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM.