Friday, April 11, 2014


Aww. Melissa Harris-Perry is on maternity leave from The Melissa Harris-Perry Show and recently tweeted this photograph with her natural hair as well as tweeted one when the baby first arrived. She had a gestational carrier (she had fibroids and then a hysterectomy; she retained her ovaries so she was able to have biologically matched embryos; she shared this information publicly already) for this baby and also has a 12 year old daughter named Parker. In her own words from How We Made Our Miracle:

My pregnancy with my first daughter was blessedly uneventful; this one, however, was indeed an event. It took two families, three states, four doctors, and five attorneys to get this little girl here. And while our gestational carrier has no genetic tie to our little one, she is now our family. She gave our daughter love, safety, and nourishment for nine months. On Valentine’s Day, she gave her life and placed her in our arms. Her immediate and extended families have supported all of us along the way. They crowded the hospital room this weekend and shared in our joy. We are all bonded for life and our daughter has a bevy of grandparents, aunties, and siblings tied to her by blood and love.

In reference to her natural hair comment above and beauty politics, she has a good essay on Slate about her experience with natural hair and her hair in general over her lifetimeI Remember Every Hairdo I’ve Had in 40 Years; Because Black Hair Is A Big Deal. True! I also remember every hairdo of my own.

I’m happy for her and her family and look forward to whenever she’s back on her show. 

The woman next t me on the bus has been talking on the phone for half an hour… that is NOT a short conversation. 

Thursday, April 10, 2014

If you trash talk Monica Lewinsky and don’t take into account the inherent power imbalance involved when a young woman is propositioned by the LEADER OF THE FREE WORLD you are literal scum.


Survivors + responders return to the finish line. Portraits by @dearworld

Dear Survivors,

When we asked you to return to the finish line, a place that changed your lives, we knew it wouldn’t be easy. You told us some days are harder than others, but that it’s okay to have bad days.

Mostly you told us about the goodness of others. Colleagues who babysat. School kids who sent notes. Neighbors who cooked dinner.

What happened that day was terror. Terror happens when love is absent.

Boston is a city of love stories now.

Thank you for sharing yours here. As you heal, know you inspire the rest of us to be better, still.



Founder, Dear World

Femininity in general is seen as frivolous. People often say feminine people are doing “the most”, meaning that to don a dress, heels, lipstick, and big hair is artifice, fake, and a distraction. But I knew even as a teenager that my femininity was more than just adornments; they were extensions of me, enabling me to express myself and my identity. My body, my clothes, and my makeup are on purpose, just as I am on purpose. Janet Mock, Redefining Realness (via ceedling)

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