snowballimus said: Kayla, you need a glee-vention (which actually sounds like something the show would come up with but you get the idea). Cold-turkey it, friend. It is the only way to keep the rage induced stress away.
YOU’RE RIGHT. I wasn’t even going to watch tonight, but then the Red Sox were sucking, so I changed the channel. It’s a testament to how bad the Red Sox are playing that Glee remained the better option.
“A good man is like fine wine. They all start out as grapes. Our job is to stomp on them and keep them in the dark until they mature into something we wouldn’t mind having dinner with.”—Maxine Shaw (via tequilasaltandlemon)
I don’t really care that she has flaws. I honestly think that it makes her character more interesting. I’m in the business of wanting more women not perfect women (because male characters don’t have to be perfect to be acceptable to anyone to be tolerated) I just want them in equal numbers. Our interests and our opinions on Jane are obviously not going to intersect anytime soon BUT I ask you to reconsider nonetheless.
Surely you’ve heard that NASA closed the WISH program for young women? I bring it up because I’ve had the dubious job of sifting through the crappy things people say about Jane, but I never have to see people dissatisfied with Tony Stark’s portrayal or Bruce Banner’s (this is just one example). That’s because they have the luxury of being stars of their own franchises. The stories are told to flatter them. I believe there’s at least somewhat of a connection in the way that those male highschoolers complaints led to the shutdown of a program to further women in STEM fields and the importance of giving young girls role models. We don’t have the luxury of pretending that women are anywhere near achieving enough representation in media and definitely there aren’t enough of them in the STEM fields. Opinions that criticize the writing are valid of course they are but they also give credence to the myth that we have enough acceptance of those woman in the first place.
We have a long way to go with female representation and the misogyny in public reactions to female characters. But I don’t think the way to achieve better representation is to diminish the revolutionary roles that women are taking in these films. I was honestly very disappointed with Maya Hansen’s quick and pointless death in IM3 (and don’t even get me started on Frigga’s death for Thor, Odin and Loki’s manpain). I was very happy that Jane not only didn’t die but was afforded the opportunity of being a more fleshed out character in this film. […]
I also really enjoyed her because she represents the women I’ve known in my life who have suffered depressions, career setbacks, emotional blows, and yet when push came to shove they stood up and pushed back. And that’s what Jane does in the film. As soon as she’s free of the Aether she’s back to theorizing about what she saw of Malekith’s plans. She’s figuring out a way to get back home. She’s already concerned with the next showdown.
I don’t want a Jane to be a perfect woman, but I want more women to join her, I want more women like Jane Foster and Lady Sif, Frigga and Darcy. In a perfect world we would have gotten a whole hour of following their storylines and seeing them get stuff accomplished. In a perfect world we’d get the Journey into Mystery storyline where Lady Sif and Jane Foster team up to go adventuring. I believe in the potential of Jane’s story and I don’t think we’ll get there if we don’t defend her now as she is, flawed, human but also pretty damn amazing.
“When did we become a country where the millionaires are jealous of the people on food stamps? A country that thinks teachers and fire fighters are soaking us dry? A country that thinks the richest who are paying the lowest taxes in 80 years are the ones being beaten up?”—Who Wants Free Stuff? | Eclectablog (via section9)
Bronies invaded and took over what was meant to be a safe and healthy environment for little girls to learn about friendship and sharing. It was meant to be a show that little girls could watch without the influence of older men. It was created by girls, for girls. How many opportunities are there for female writers and animators to create a show tailored to the growth and development of little girls?
Bronies took over a safe space for children and turned it into their own playground. The ponies are representing six little girls — six children — and Bronies have turned them into a sexual fantasy. Fuck, someone created a blog turning one of the princesses into a sexual predator as a ~joke~. Men have made felt ponies that they can literally fuck. They draw crude and disgusting fan art. They roleplay the ponies fucking each other. They took a children’s cartoon and made it sexual, which I view as extremely pedophilic.
And now bronies are expecting special treatment and recognition from Lauren Faust and everyone else involved with the show, and even accusing A SHOW ABOUT GIRLS FOR GIRLS of misandry. MISANDRY. Because men’s opinions aren’t voiced or relevant; because the male characters on the show aren’t the main characters; because the creators are trying their damndest to keep that show for little girls. Apparently having specifically female-centered content is misandry.
My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic had the potential to be revolutionary. But of course, men had to come in and fuck it all up. Again. Because God fucking forbid girls have a tiny sliver of something especially for them.
do you have any advice for roommate issues? I ask because you always seem to have an answer for everything and you're just really smart ahhh. okay so i moved in with one of my best friends and months later i am realizing that it was a terrible idea and it's destroying our relationship. our lease is up in two months. any advice on dealing until then?? i feel so uncomfortable in my own home but i have nowhere else to go.
That is awful anon. I’ve had a bunch of roommates (I went to boarding school, and then a residential college, and then my first year out I had roommates), and now that I’m living alone, I never want to go back - good thing I don’t believe I’m marriage material anyway.
There are always going to be problems when you live with other people: they might not be as quick to clean up as you are, or maybe they’re annoyingly (and demandingly) tidy. Maybe they hog the bathroom, or don’t fill the ice cube trays, or have loud sex when you’re trying to sleep.
In my experience, it’s much easier to address these problems when you aren’t friends with your roommate - confronting a friend can feel like a personal criticism, even a betrayal, and it puts a strain on the friendship AND the roommate relationship.
Obviously you’ve learned what I have learned: unless you have a very large (and preferably soundproof) living space, living with friends is probably a mistake.
Here’s what I’ve done in the past when having roommate problems (though I have also gone down the much less admirable passive-aggressive route):
Try to talk out your specific issues, if you can. If (when?) that doesn’t work, try to minimize interactions. Hang out in your room as much as you can, or pick up an extra shift at work if you can (or if you’re in school, hang around campus). If the walls are thin, wear headphones a lot - invest in earplugs for when you sleep. If possible, avoid the common areas of the apartment - even keep your non perishable food in your own room if you can. Make sure you clean up after yourself in the kitchen/bathroom/living room, so your roommate won’t have any reason to seek you out to complain. If things get really bad (if you feel unsafe, for instance), find ANYWHERE ELSE TO BE as often as you can. If you don’t have other friends nearby, spend free time in a public library, park, or coffee shop.
This is a really hard situation - I’m still on good terms with the majority of my former friend-roommates even after strained situations, but there are one or two who I cut ties with entirely, and haven’t spoken to in years, after moving out and unfriending them on Facebook.
Stay safe, good luck, and feel free to come off anon if you want to talk - I promise to keep your identity secret, and answer privately.
Among other things, Judge Kopf reveals that he has “been a dirty old man ever since I was a very young man. Except, that is, when it comes to my daughters (and other young women that I care deeply about).”
The kick of girl-girl porno lies partly in its catering to the fantasy of violating the privacy of lesbians, of making even sex between women - something quite threatening to male sexual prerogative-serve a male agenda; the other, tacit element is the kick of seeing “normal”girls made to emulate homosexual activity. The assumption is that homosexual activity is repulsive, and that therefore the models are disgusted by it and endure it under some compulsion - whether the compulsion of money, force of personality, or physical threat.
Pictures of real lesbians - at Gay Pride rallies, for example - kissing, necking and flirting are often considered disgusting and ugly by the same men who enjoy girl-girl fantasy porn.
Lesbians in the public world who kiss, hold hands, or otherwise behave like a sexually intimate couple (in a restaurant, in a park, at a movie) have often been subjected to abuse, threats and violence from hetero men - the same men who constitute the market for ever-popular girl-girl porno.
”—Catharine A. Mackinnon, “Not For Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution & Pornography.” 2004. (via sanityscraps)
We need the quiet person who doesn’t want to talk to the world but tells their best friend about accepting a fat body. We need the fat person who is willing to put on fashion that screams “I am here, and I won’t be ignored!” We need the people who will tell a doctor that fat is not an acceptable diagnosis and a diet is not an acceptable solution. We need the fatty who walks down the street with their head held high, knowing that they deserve a place in the world. We need each and every one of you.
It’s easy to think that you are not important if you aren’t a fat activist in front of the camera or a blogger telling the world that being fat is ok. But you are important – so very important. Though a speaker or writer may start the person thinking, what can really change their mind is seeing someone live it.
”—~From the upcoming book The Unloved Child, Collateral Damage in the War on Obesity by Lonie McMichael, author of Talking Fat and Acceptable Prejudice? Fat, Rhetoric and Social Justice (via loniemc)
“I think it was time for men to see what it was like. And this video, on the set as well, made people a little uncomfortable. It was funny to see that. Even though the treatment was the director’s idea, when we were doing the scene where they wash the cars, right? You’ve seen this scene a million times with girls. They’re in a bathing suit, they’re pouring water on themselves — you’ve seen it in movies even. You’ve seen it everywhere. They’re pouring water and suds all over themselves, they’re rubbing their boobs on the car, the whole thing. When we were doing this with the guys, the crew, the director — and he’ll admit this too — and the guys who had to do it after one take were like, “Well I think that’s enough. I think, you know, that’s cool.” I was like, “No!” Because if a girl were doing this right now, we’d be shooting it for an hour! Meanwhile we’ve done one take and you’re like, “That’s good.” I was like, “No, it’s not good! Rub your butt on the car!” It’s supposed to be funny, people have to get the joke, but they also have to see what it’s like. How absurd it is to do things like that. I asked the guys, “You feel absurd right now? Yes? Good, then we’re doing it right. Now rub your chest on the car and let’s go.” [laughs]
For me it was like, I just wanted them to see what it feels like. I wasn’t trying to have some big political conversation about it, but I am trying to say think about what you do.”—Jennifer Lopez, when asked about “I Luh Ya Papi” in this interview (via yah-booty)
I can’t wait for Hillary to pull a BEYONCÉ. No promo, no campaign, no nothing. We will all just be sitting on twitter with our thumbs up our asses when our timeline suddenly starts to fill with the news that Hillary Rodham Clinton is now President Hillary Rodham Clinton. Slayed the game, and we weren’t even ready for it.
That’s called a coup. That’s a fascist dictatorship. That is the exact opposite of what anyone wants.
Vaccines aren't actually necessary. If you live a natural, healthy lifestyle free of chemicals, toxic food additives, and GMOs, your body will take care of diseases itself.
Ah, right, like the way literally millions of people’s bodies “took care of themselves” back when everyone was eating 100% organic non-GMO everything and living totally “naturally.”
Death. The word you’re looking for as the reality behind your little euphemism is mass, often genocidal, pandemic, bodies-piled-in-the-streets for fucks sake look up smallpox or polio some time and see how long it takes you to start sobbing DEATH. With a side of mutilation and life-long disability for the “lucky” ones.
PS: If you really believe that all chemicals in food and medicine are evil and therefore a good excuse not to get yourself and your kids vaccinated, see how long you survive without Dihydrogen Monoxide.
The concern for overly exposed young bodies may be well-intentioned. With society fetishizing girls at younger and younger ages, girls are instructed to self-objectify and see themselves as sexual objects, something to be looked at. A laundry list of problems can come from obsessing over one’s appearance: eating disorders, depression, low self-worth. Who wouldn’t want to spare her daughter from these struggles?
But these dress codes fall short of being legitimately helpful. What we fail to consider when enforcing restrictions on skirt-length and the tightness of pants is the girls themselves—not just their clothes, but their thoughts, emotions, budding sexuality and self-image.
Instead, these restrictions are executed with distracted boys in mind, casting girls as inherent sexual threats needing to be tamed. Dress restrictions in schools contribute to the very problem they aim to solve: the objectification of young girls. When you tell a girl what to wear (or force her to cover up with an oversized T-shirt), you control her body. When you control a girl’s body—even if it is ostensibly for her “own good”—you take away her agency. You tell her that her body is not her own.
When you deem a girl’s dress “inappropriate,” you’re also telling her, “Because your body may distract boys, your body is inappropriate. Cover it up.” You recontextualize her body; she now exists through the male gaze.
Police confirmed to BuzzFeed that there were three fatalities at two locations. A KCTV reporter on the scene said the suspect reportedly yelled “Heil Hitler” as he was taken away in handc…
A spokesperson for the Overland Park Police Department in Kansas City confirmed to BuzzFeed that there were three fatalities after shootings at the Overland Park Jewish Community Center in Kansas City and at a nearby Jewish assisted living center.
The first shooting was reported to the police around 1 p.m., a spokesperson for the Overland Park Fire Department said.
Lee confirmed to BuzzFeed that she heard the suspect “shout something about Hitler.” The police department told BuzzFeed that it did not know if the incident would be classified as a hate crime, but said the investigation would continue for months.
The Jewish Community Center of Greater Kansas Cityposted an update on Facebook saying the shooting did not occur inside their buildings but in the parking lot.
Our hearts go out to the families who have suffered loss on this tragic day. Our heartfelt gratitude as well to all those in Kansas City and around the world who have expressed sympathy, concern and support.
No shooting occurred inside the Jewish Community Center buildings; the shooting occurred in the parking lot of the Jewish Community Campus. Everyone participating in JCC programming has been released to their homes.
We will post more information following a debriefing at the Overland Park Police Command Center and a 5:00 p.m. press conference, which will be carried live.
In the meantime, the Jewish Community Center will be closed tomorrow. Again, our hearts go out to all those affected and touched by this terrible tragedy.
A woman suffering a miscarriage goes to a Catholic hospital after her doctor tells her she needs a dilation and curettage (D&C) to stop the bleeding. Her doctor, afraid of attracting attention from the hospital’s Ethics Board, gives her a blood transfusion instead and sends her home to wait it out.
Twelve hours later, still bleeding, she’s back in the hospital. The hospital refuses to treat her for another seven hours, performing three or four ultrasounds to determine the fetus is dead - apparently, there’s plenty of time for religious technicalities when a woman is bleeding and risks deadly infection. She gets a second transfusion carrying antigens that put her next pregnancy at risk for sudden fetal death, and only then does she get the D&C to complete her miscarriage.
Her second pregnancy, thankfully, made it to term. However, thanks to the hospital’s incompetence, waiting to deliver spontaneously was too risky. She had to undergo a second C-section, which is a major abdominal surgery with its own risks and a long recovery time - not exactly ideal for a new mother of two.
Religious restrictions on health care put patients’ lives in danger. This is not moral or ethical. This is not good health care. This is shameful.